Divorce is commonplace – around half of all marriages are dissolved through the legal system – yet it can still be a topic that raises questions. Here are some of the most common questions people have about divorce, as well as the answers to them.
When Was the First Divorce?
There have been laws around how to leave a marriage since around 2000 BC. Clay tablets in Mesopotamia were inscribed with divorce laws around this time. However, divorce in this time was rare and carried stigma, especially for women, so there were very few divorces during this period.
What Is the Most Common Reason People Get Divorced?
In a study carried out by Denver University, infidelity and/or lack of commitment were cited as the reason most people got divorced. It seems that, for many people, an affair is the ultimate betrayal and, even if the adulterous relationship doesn’t last, trust can be hard to rebuild. Other common reasons couples divorce include arguments and conflict, getting married too young, and financial difficulties.
How Much Does a Divorce Cost?
This question is difficult to answer because it will be different for every person. If you are wondering ‘How much does a divorce lawyer cost?’ this can depend on the firm and the lawyer you use. The services you require can also have an impact. Some divorces will be more complicated; for example, if there are assets being divided, property that needs to be sold, or a prenuptial agreement in place. The cost of divorce for partnerships with children is more expensive than for one without.
How Can We Tell Our Children We Are Getting Divorced?
Even if you know you are making the right decision for yourselves and your family, telling people you are getting divorced can be nerve-racking. Telling your children you are getting divorced is never going to be easy so prepare yourself for it to be a difficult conversation. However, depending on their age and level of understanding, they may already know that separation is a possibility. Children are very astute and can notice tension within the home. It can be helpful for you and your ex to agree what you are going to say beforehand. Often it is best if you talk to your children together. Be prepared that they could get upset.
Which Famous Couples Have Got Divorced Throughout History?
Many famous marriages have ended in divorce. King Henry VIII had six wives throughout his life, with two of his marriages (to his first and fourth wives, Katherine of Aragon and Anne of Cleves) ending in divorce. In modern times, members of the Royal Family have divorced, most famously the now King Charles III and Princess Diana. Hollywood has also seen its fair share of divorces with high-profile marriages such as Brad Pitt and Angelina Jolie’s and Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman’s ending in divorce.
In the Western world, divorce is now more widely accepted. It is time we started talking about it more openly, so that it is less mysterious!